Gosh, today marks the day that I am officially 28. It is a weird age. It is not like turning 16 or 18 or 21 … those big birthdays where life totally changes … finally being able to drive, to vote, to drink. And it isn’t a year like 20 or 25 or 30 where it is a milestone birthday … where people get you cards with your age on them. (I’m pretty sure Hallmark doesn’t make a happy 28th birthday).

In a way, it feels like just another birthday. Yet as I look back on the past 28 years, all the tears, disappointments, adventures, laughter, and amazing memories, I realize it is one never ending journey. I wouldn’t go back and change a thing … however life might have been a little easier had I known the following. So if I could write a note to my younger self with advice it would be this. (And I’m sure my future self could be reminded of these things too).

>> Live what you love. No matter what.

>> Travel light.

>> It is ok to say no (an invitation is not an obligation).

>> Unplug (from technology) as much as possible.

>> It something isn’t beautiful, useful or meaningful … get rid of it.

>> When you discover something you love, do it more often.

>> It is OK to not have a plan.

>> Let things go.

>> Big risks = big rewards.

>> Find someone who inspires you, and then become someone who inspires others.

>> Relationships are complicated, but always worth the roller coaster.

>> A day without chocolate isn’t complete.

>> Save your money. You never know when a last minute trip of a lifetime might happen.

>> Friends grow apart, but you can still cherish your relationship for what it was.

>> Don’t compare your life, relationship, work, family, etc to others. You don’t know what their journey is about.

>> It is ok to ask for help.

>> Don’t burn bridges. You never know when you are going to need that person.

>> A good cry is sometimes all you need to feel better.

>> If you are unhappy, don’t talk about it. Change it.

>> Burn the candles. Use the china. Wear the your jewels. Don’t save it for a special occasion. Today is special.

>> However good or bad a situation is, it will change.

>> Everyone is busy. Make time for those who are important to you.

>> Make time for yourself.

>> Don’t take no for an answer when it comes to your dreams.

>> Always tell someone how you feel.

>> Give credit. Take blame.

>> Listen. Every person has a story to tell.

>> What’s meant to be always finds a way.

Brittany XO Signature 2

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